Married Swingers Share 3 Things They Learned on Their First Spicy Cruise With 6,700 Passengers

Bella and Jase have been in the swinging lifestyle for over a decade, but even they admit their first “spicy cruise” was a little overwhelming.

If you’re wondering what that actually means, a spicy cruise is an adults-only voyage where open-minded couples explore connections with people outside their relationship. Think of it as a floating resort for those who want more than just cocktails and sun loungers.

Bella and Jase are now regulars on Bliss Cruise, which sees thousands of swingers take over Royal Caribbean’s Symphony of the Seas. With 6,700 passengers onboard, things can get steamy fast, but the couple say there are three important lessons they wish they’d known the first time around.

A man and woman sit together in a brightly lit kitchen. The man, wearing a patterned white shirt, speaks into a microphone, while the woman with long dark hair and layered necklaces looks toward the camera, both appearing to be recording content. — Credit: Youtube/ 4OURPLAY by Bella & Jase

1. Pace Yourself

“The first thing is pace yourself,” Jase explained. “There are so many events, so many fun things going on, but you have to remember it’s a marathon, not a sprint.”

With pool parties, theme nights and meet-ups happening around the clock, it’s easy to get burnt out on day one. Bella and Jase now choose the events they’re most excited about and skip the rest — so they can actually enjoy them instead of running on fumes.

2. Boundaries First

Bella says the most important prep work happens before you even step on board.

“Align on boundaries, make sure you know each other’s comfort levels and be able to talk about what you’re both hoping to explore,” she said. “Having that clarity up front will lead to a lot more connection onboard.”

Even for high school sweethearts like them, setting expectations is key. They stress that honest conversations beforehand avoid misunderstandings and make the trip more fun for both partners.

3. Put Yourself Out There

For Jase, the biggest lesson was about confidence.

“It’s perfectly okay to be nervous — everybody is nervous at the beginning, especially on their first cruise like this,” he said. “But going out there and making those connections makes a huge difference.”

He even shared a simple hack for breaking the ice: “The second you get onboard, just say hello to the first person you see. A little compliment or just asking where they’re from — it makes the whole experience less nerve-racking.”

Why Spicy Cruises Are Booming

It’s not just Bella and Jase who’ve noticed how popular these trips have become. Dr Tara Suwinyattichaiporn, a relationship expert and star of Celebs Go Dating, says the boom comes down to two big cultural shifts: the rise of ethical non-monogamy and a society that’s increasingly sex-positive.

Where these cruises were once whispered about in closed circles, today couples are openly sharing their adventures on vlogs, TikToks, and blogs. What used to be seen as taboo is now something people are comfortable posting online, often giving curious newcomers a window into what really happens on board.

And compared to a one-night party on land, these cruises offer a full package: sunshine, exotic destinations, and a luxury holiday rolled into one, with the added option of exploring new connections at sea.

Four people pose playfully on the stairs of a swingers cruise, dressed in matching blue and pink-themed outfits. The men wear floral-print shorts and blue shirts, while the women wear revealing pink ensembles, one with a tutu and the other in a thong bodysuit. Their flirtatious body language and confident expressions embody the bold, sensual, and uninhibited atmosphere of the adults-only cruise experience.

Are They for Everyone?

As exciting as a spicy cruise might sound, Dr Tara warns they’re not the right fit for every couple. She stresses that these trips should only be considered if you’re in a healthy, stable relationship with strong communication already in place.

“When you’re in a struggling relationship, you really shouldn’t be going anywhere except therapy,” she explains. The key, she says, is being able to talk openly about expectations and boundaries before you set sail, otherwise, the experience could do more harm than good.

Wrapping It Up

At the end of the day, Bella and Jase say spicy cruises aren’t just about what happens behind closed doors — they’re about connection, confidence, and clarity as a couple. Add in the fact that society is becoming more open about alternative lifestyles, and it’s easy to see why these voyages are booming.

And if you’re curious about how other “alternative” cruises work, check out our article: Man Reveals the Surprising Rules on a Nude Cruise – Including the One Everyone Knows.